Akhila Kolesar: The Decentralized Self

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S3E3 Akhila Kolesar: The Decentralized Self

April 19, 2022

Today, on First Person Plural, therapist Akhila Kolesar shares her awareness of multiple self identities and how her understanding of them has grown throughout her life.

Kolesar is a clinical psychologist specializing in trauma, relationship dynamics, identity development, anxiety and depression and difficult transitions. With a doctorate from the Institute of transpersonal psychology, she takes a whole person approach to psychotherapy, addressing the physical, mental, and spiritual self of each of her clients. She currently serves clients through her private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area.

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Akhila Kolesar

Akhila Kolesar, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist practicing integrative and transpersonal psychotherapy in a private practice setting in San Francisco, California. She works with adults from a variety of backgrounds, many who are sexually and gender-diverse, and specializes in psychotherapy that weaves in wisdom from the body and environment. She works somatically, symbolically, and cognitively, and maintains a practice rooted in interpersonal feminism and mindful compassion. Akhila obtained her Ph.D. from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology after years of studying Ecopsychology, both in the field and at UC Santa Cruz. She has pursued ongoing training in Dreamwork, Existential-Humanism, Dreamwork, and Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, and spends near all her free time backpacking or with community in constellation and ceremony.

Akhila Kolesar


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  • Special thanks to Cora who you heard at the top of the show in our “Small People, Big Voices,” segment.
  • This episode was written and produced by Elizabeth Solomon, Gabriela Acosta, and Kerry Seed.
  • Audio Production by Michele Zipkin.
  • Episode art and production support by Bryant Johnson.
  • Music includes Tiny Footsteps in the Snow by Bio Unit and theme music by Amber Ojeda.


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